Ok, Dawn, how sick is this: I think my H has "married" is SL OW... I found some evidence to support that and thought... what the ????? That is just so screwed up. So sad. So freakin' weird.
Who is this man? I truly think he's in so deep he can't get his brain out of it. It's so, so, so, so messed up...
And the other thing I think it's gone on for longer than I suspected, possibly. Here's my current timeline... In about April, he started spending time online and I was upset about it but he kept saying it was nothing, nothing nothing.
On June 5, I found the weird e-mail account and e-mails to the first OW where he professed love and I realize he was going to meet her, so I confronted him and he dropped the "separation" bomb and pointed out all the issues he has with me.
On July 1 -- last phone call to first OW from his cell.
Probably the week after that, he gets involved with current OW. Now it's July 21 and he's "married" her or something to that effect, and they're soulmates even though they never met face to face???? And I think he's only seen one photo of "half" of her face?
Anyway -- in my past snooping this weekend, I found an e-mail from ANOTHER woman, apparently from before the first OW that said he's a jerk and she can't believe what a jerk he is and she feels sorry for me and our D -- she even mentioned us by name. I was creeped out that this stranger knows about me and my D but I was kind of happy to see someone say that to him because apparently he's being a jerk in SL as well and probably will get run out of there... Of course, who knows when that will happen. But I read in his "chatting" that the current OW also thinks people in SL are mean and "use people" and so does he so they will probably run off together to escape SL too... Little does she know he's a user too, apparently...
So messed up, so messed up... My husband was always the most caring, thoughtful man to me, so this is all so beyond surreal...
But it's like the more he's messed up, the better I feel because I know that although WE had/have some issues as a couple that I didn't pick up on and he didn't share, this is way, way, way more about him. And that makes me feel like I'M NOT CRAZY! He is, totally, nuts!
And since he seems to be blowing through OW online at a rapid rate, I know this new "wife" won't likely last very long. And if she does, he's in for trouble because she strikes me as needy and having major issues. Have fun, H!
And I can't see my IC early -- she's on vacation, so I have to just suck it up. I considered even calling a DB coach, but I don't want to fork over the dough because my IC is covered by insurance and only costs $20 per session. So I'm trying to wait.
This is going to sound like an excuse, but I totally have a backslide when I have PMS -- both times I had a major one it was PMS time. Of course, our scheduled vacation is during PMS time, so I'm kind of worried about it, but I need to try and get stronger between now and then. I have three weeks...
M 39 H 34 D 6 M almost 8 years T 11 years Bomb: 6/5/08
