Alien invasion 3.0

[hoosiermama]

Thanks, sg and Puppy. It seems H's back in the angry phase again--been on the warpath about money/spending. So might as well hit him now with the support of the MC. I am, unfortunately, somewhat dependent upon his income, at least until I find a job (mine runs out in ~6 weeks)and I'm aware he could be quite nasty about it, and I'd be up a creek--at least until I could afford a lawyer. But his irresponsibility with money (not overspending, just refusal to deal with it) contributed greatly to us being in this spot. But--it seems like he must feel at least a little bit guilty about OW, or it wouldn't be such a secret from everyone; the most it seems he's said is that he "reconnected" with an old friend. So pushing in this area, at least to get it out in the open, might not be a bad thing. MC did ask for facts last time, and he lied about there being "someone else." Doesn't like the word "affair," but what else would you call it when he's talking with OW about spending the rest of their lives together?

We're not doing MC at this point to work on our R, but rather to support D as much as possible. He's not the least bit interested in recovery, he's done. However, if he's lying about this to MC, how do I know what else he may lie about?