Sending positive vibes to my H!

[upside_downer]

Pisces-

Thanks. You're the first to give me a hug. I never would have expected it from a Pisces. According to an astrology book my W has, me and Pisces do NOT belong in a R. She's a Pisces as well...I'm an Aries.

[Neilh23]

Pisces...cool beans for you.

Offer to make dinner, but don't force it. Remember, don't force anything...just let things go naturally.

sounds good what you would make BTW.....really good.

Remember, PMA and validate and listen.

Keep it uP!!!!!!!!

[poet]

we havent fought in months- so im not worried about that..the progress has been great too...i will keep my DB'ing in check- forvever..i havent slipped once since the bomb .... it will be just a ncie, easy night!

WOW! No fighting since the bomb. OMG, I'm truly impressed. How did you make that change so quickly? You are one great influence. You're a pisces, and I'm a pisces. I need to read your WHOLE sitch.

Do, you have a link?

((((((hugs going out to you))))))
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[pisces9]

TD- so true- we did end up in the hot tub and that was the last thing on my mind...so funny how that works. so i will just be calm, cool and collected...should i invite him after dinner to the hot tub again? im sure it will be fine- all of our interactions have been 100% positive ( from my pov!)

i just really want him to say he wants to come home-
TD- i was looking at your posts- when and how did your W say she wanted to come home? is this something i leave totally to him to say?

Neil- thanks - i will validate, listen , listen and listen...i can tell hat sometimes i want to say more and he will actually keep going with deeper stuff so i will remember this...


UD- i am a hugger and very emotional- i also was told that my H and i were not a good match (gemini) but thats BS....its all what you make of it ...

as you can see below i have a link but its the whole thing- how do i make it short with a cute name?

thanks~

[upside_downer]

Could you give some of that extroverted emotion stuff to my W? She is a total introvert. Let's NO one in!!!

[pisces9]

suzanne- i guess we didn’t fight really pre bomb- it was more his unhappiness for many months and a slow progression to the bomb. i have now learned that i was not hearing what he needed to say. he just needed to talk and have me hear him. sometimes when you are in the middle of all the drama its hard to see what is needed....he tried to pick fights with me the first few weeks-he was angry and trying to have "reasons" to not like me. now thats not that case and he is very sweet to me and gentle- he is literally purging all of his past, skewed angry thoughts that he thought was me and realizes now was his sh*t.

this would not have happened if i reacted, screamed, cried, belittled, was vindictive or mean, etc. it happened bc i shut my mouth, validated and listened. the hardest thing i have ever had to do. but its here to stay.

[Neilh23]

good job pisces....really good job. now keep it up tonite!!!!! maybe some more hot tub time!!!!

[JWS]

Pisces
to make the link copy this

[url=www.yourlinkhere.com]title here[/url]

change the http://www.yourlink.com part to your thread and title here to your cute name then past it into you signiture where your other link is.

[pisces9]

3-2-1 Contact!

OMG! im a tech geek! i did it!!!

[upside_downer]

suzanne- i guess we didn’t fight really pre bomb- it was more his unhappiness for many months and a slow progression to the bomb. i have now learned that i was not hearing what he needed to say. he just needed to talk and have me hear him. sometimes when you are in the middle of all the drama its hard to see what is needed....he tried to pick fights with me the first few weeks-he was angry and trying to have "reasons" to not like me. now thats not that case and he is very sweet to me and gentle- he is literally purging all of his past, skewed angry thoughts that he thought was me and realizes now was his sh*t.

this would not have happened if i reacted, screamed, cried, belittled, was vindictive or mean, etc. it happened bc i shut my mouth, validated and listened. the hardest thing i have ever had to do. but its here to stay.

Pisces, you really need to show me. This is EXACTLY what my W has told me- straight to my face no less, was/is one of the biggest issues. I am such a fixer. I am such a bleeding heart that when someone is in pain, I feel I want to feel it with them, experience it with them, and understand them. That's what got me in this mess, and I can't seem to stop being selfish. Please.....teach me the way.