I will be honest with you, I am getting tired of it ALL....
suck it up, you got a long way to go. You're not gonna quit to many positives even if you only want to pick out the negatives.
By the way, she comes back over there to use her womanly features against you like she did on the 4th...either deny her or tell her you're sick, or put yourself in a detached place in your mind and just make it about the "deed"...the "deed" got you all negative brother.
besides you told in your last convo that being a "broke ass" cornhusker was nothing..you wanted the family and R/M/her/love back and you would be willing to risk financial ruin to get that..
so suck it up and go get it...
PS, if you hadn't noticed these 2x4's your getting are pretty much your own words I'm using against you. She's hearing them the same way I'm reading them I bet..
and another thing...This "doing work" that everyone talks about, I beleive it's supposed to be tiring. if it was easy then we would all be doing the "deed" right now.
Unfortunately when it comes to things that I really want, I tend to be a 'half empty glass' person, that way there is less distance to fall when it doesn't happen.
I won't deny there have been some positives in words, but very little in action.
Yes I did say that and the 'broke' part is going to happen regardless of how anything else turns out.
Yes my words are coming back to whack me they usually do, once again too much going on if it were one or the other it would be manageable, but 2 life changing issues at once is puttin me in a fog. I know life is a b*&$h.
W sent me an email wanting me to fax her the info on the law suit, she is going to have her lawyer take a look at it.
W sent me an email wanting me to fax her the info on the law suit, she is going to have her lawyer take a look at it.
Gee is she helping our is she ploting????
I would think it's positive. Somebody has to look at it. Maybe she is taking some responsibility for it.
Why did she not get the info herself??
Why have you fax it to her??
Maybe she has.
She has not had time to go to the post office and pick hers up yet, so she asked if I would fax her my copy so that she can get it to her lawyer today.
You know Brian, I tried to stay out of this today. Tried to just keep my mouth shut and let my bro from cross state handle it all, but it is just driving me nuts.
I am going to keep it simple, how many people on this board do you think would die to be in your shoes right now. How many do you believe would die to have some of the signs you have had. You are complaining because it's hard, give me a break.
Let me tell you what hard is. Hard is when she leaves and you have no idea where she is.
Hard is when she forgets she even has kids and she runs away from her life.
Hard is when she is having an affair right in front of your very eyes and could care less what you think about it.
Hard is when your wife leaves you for another woman.
Are you starting to get my point?
By the way, Mike is dead on, you can work with her to fix this problem, but do not dare fix this for her. For goodness sakes Brian..........
Thanks for sharing I always repect and accept your wisdom and opinions. I can't imagine the pain that you are in, in some ways I agree I am better off then some and worse than others.
As I knew in my mind once the financial situation reared it's ugly head that would be the end of it. As of today I have had 2 phone calls from her with her yelling at me and blaming me for the position we are in, not too mention countless spiteful emails from her.
With that being said, she has informed me that she is filing for Divorce and it is over. In her mind she feels that I took advantage of her she trusted me with the finances and could have cared less about them as long as there was money in the account, not ever listening to me when I told her something needed to be done. This is something she says is unforgiveable because she feels stupid for not paying attention and that she cannot get past it.
We all experience different levels of how hard this is on all of us, I certainly meant no harm to anyone for expressing my feelings on this board, if I offend anyone I apologize, but I felt secure in venting my feelings here.
she has informed me that she is filing for Divorce and it is over. In her mind she feels that I took advantage of her she trusted me with the finances and could have cared less about them as long as there was money in the account, not ever listening to me when I told her something needed to be done. This is something she says is unforgiveable because she feels stupid for not paying attention and that she cannot get past it.
Have you heard the term do not count your chickens until they hatch.Do not believe it until it happens. This is simply lashing out at you because of a bad situation and she knows she is partially to blame for it. Again, she lashes out at you because you are one she knows she can do it to.
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I can't imagine the pain that you are in, in some ways I agree I am better off then some and worse than others.
Brian, those things I pointed out where not all about me, they were situations of others on this board. I am no longer in pain, I figured things out about 6 months ago and am at peace with my decisions and actions. Actually, I believe that I am more at peace now than I have been in many years.
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We all experience different levels of how hard this is on all of us, I certainly meant no harm to anyone for expressing my feelings on this board, if I offend anyone I apologize, but I felt secure in venting my feelings here.
As far as I know Brian, there was no offense taken. My post, JSYK, was intended to tell you that you do not need to sit on a pity pot.
Let me tell you what else, finances will not cause a divorce, give her time to cool her jets and for goodness sakes do not respond to her nonsense of yelling and threatening. Wait till she gets her panties out of a knot before you discuss it with her. You don't need any confrontation.
