Kelly Jo The Wifey new thread.

[Virtually_Handsome]

((((((Kelly Jo))))))

The ONE thing that you can believe on is that he is confused!

What he writes in an email to someone could be colored by a lot of things. He could have been saying what eh though the person wanted to hear. He could have been trying to convince himself. It could have been what he felt, at the time he wrote it. It could have been drivel coming out of the end of his fingers!

So, don't make too much of it! And DON'T ask him to explain it! And don't snoop again!

By the way, you are not wasting your time, in any case! You are improving yourself, and learning about yourself, right? Changes in you can help bring about changes in your relationship. It takes time though! (I know about that part!)

((((((((((Kelly Jo))))))))))

[The Wifey]

((((((Jeff)))))) Thank you so very much for that, Jeff. Maybe I should come up with something innocent to talk to him about if he does call. It just pisses me off that this Ginny keeps pushing him to tell her what is going on. She needs to back off because it is not helping things at all.

[Neilh23]

Kjo-

It's frustrating, i understand. At the start of my sitch, there was OM who i know was confusing my W.....with all sorts of things. It didn't help that I kept getting pissed about it, and showing her in ways that weren't helpful.

Look, just be yourself. Your H has to decide and tell this Ginny that he can't do anything...... He needs to realize HE needs time to heal.

Remember, you can't control what he does. He needs to make these decisions by himself. Be the best W you can be....in spite of the circumstances. He will realize what he's going to lose if he continues.

Keep strong. You're doing great!

[The Wifey]

Thanks, Neil. I really don't feel I'm doing so great. I love him so much. I just don't know what to do. I want to believe we have a chance. I'm feeling really scared that it might be too late.

[Neilh23]

*WHAP*****

If you think that, then it WILL be too late. We create what we look to avoid......so don't think that way.

Someone told me this....take your heart off your sleeve and put it away for awhile. If you wallow in your pain, you won't get anywhere..............right?

Want inspiration? Look around on the boards....you will definitly find some...

Do some GALing for yourself......something fun and exciting...get away from your sitch. just do SOMETHING fun...

Believe in yourself.....

[The Wifey]

Neil, I have C tonight. I will say a long prayer first and then put myself in her care.

[Neilh23]

good for you. you have every reason in the world to believe this is going to work. give him space. give him time. let him work things out on his own. be there to support him if he wants it....us DAM can be very stubborn sometimes, esp. when it comes to admitting our feelings....

include the serenity prayer in your long prayer...i think it'll help...

[poet]

"I'm feeling really scared that it might be too late."

OK Wifey,

I HEAR ya! But don't forget the old saying "It's NEVER too late." Check out my sitch. I'm way behind you, girlfriend.

((((((((((((W))))))))))))))

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[The Wifey]

Suzanne1, I will check for updates since Friday. I've been reading along, but don't have internet access on the weekends.

[LolaL]

Wonder if I can search for a curandera? I'll try anything at this point.

You can search for anything!!!