I have my main thread over in newcomers, but have started on here a little while ago and feel there might be some people who could offer me some help.
I'm out of house at the moment but moving back in on Saturday. I'm only house sitting my sister for a week to give us space. Now, my W has met another man, been on one date and wants to continue to see him, she seems to basically hate me right now and i'm really struggling to hold it together when with her or even when with my kids as the OM bit destroys me. Until she had a ONS and now starting to like someone who wants to see her (even after I spoke to him Tuesday night, see my thread for details). So, I've basically got until a Divorce comes through to do this things, but what are the things that originally got the WAW thinking ? What are things I can do now, that are noticeable and get you thinking ?
See, the thing is, I have a few ideas as posted in newcomers, but I'm not sure how to put them in without seeming obvious or OTT.
Cheers
Sandi - Not sure you've seen but I've asked for you to come 2x4 me in newcomers. If you get a chance, please do before the weekend as you might help me avoid any more backslides.
You are all over the place, 1. Accept that she is going to do what she wants & there is nothing you can do
2. Realize that your relationship is toxic right now an get away from it (mentally & emotionally)
3. And this OM isn't about you she is doing this to be selfish & taking what she "THINKS" she wants the whole other man will end (trust me) but the thing at that point is will she choose you or look for OM #2
4. Take this time and find the you, that you lost, you did things that you thought you (or she wanted you to be) were supposed to be
5. Take care of the kids right now she is very unstable and is toxic for them right now, don't add to that situation, accept the facts as they are lick your wounds, than MAN UP & just be mommy & daddy the kids will need someone that is stable
6. No one is perfect and your wife is making a (VERY BIG) mistake that we all hope she will learn from, don't hold this over her head if she decides to come back to you Good luck and BTW this whole process may take years so you need to decide are you in for the long haul or are you ready to move on? & Do some soul searching!
WAW 32 ME 38 D11, S9 & D2 Together 10/96 Married 4/2000 Bomb 4/2006 PA1 9/2006 PA2 11/2006 I now know I want out, With my Kids!!!
Thanks AJ - Only just remembered I posted in here.
Have a look at major developments from my newcomers thread if you like as moved on loads since my week away last week.
I've deceided I'm moving on. The door is ajar and I will be there for her if she asked, but I don't see that happening in a hurry. I feel I've been more than understanding to what's gone on, but will do the Divorce and move on with my life now. I deserve more than I've been getting and looking back a lot last week, realised I've given a lot. Often not the right 'lot' and I would be happy to work on that with W but she does not want to.
Very scared for my W's well being at the moment though. Being a depressed person, I imagine these sitches are even tougher than they are on others. Time will tell
