I know there are more of you out there that have survived MLC, or at least are working through it, but BFM and FW have been there and given me advice in the past, so I'm looking for some now...............
I can't remember all of the details of your sitch. My H has just moved out (after saying he would for 2 years). I have confirmed the existence of OW. H has not told me of her. I have not confronted him with what I know, partly because I promised I would not share that information, and who have it to me. I have spoken with a person whose H denied his A up until it was clear there was going to be a Federal Investigation surrounding e-mail records.
FW did you come clean right away? If not, how long did it take you to tell BFM what was going on.
I'm very conflicted about all of this. I also know that H is too. Even though he has completely detached himself from me, when I look into his eyes, I can see the hurt and pain. I know he's struglling with what to do. He may be considering leaving for the OW. I don't know. He may think he's messed up too much and doesn't want to deal with all the work or pain he thinks he would cause if he told me the truth. For now, I'm trying to stand. I'm trying to breathe. I'm looking at this as if he is very ill, and he is.
I know that I can't confront him with what I know. I also know if we have a chance down the road, he will have to open up to me and tell me what happened.
Any advice would be appreciated..........................
Me 45 M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08 D 18, D 14, S 12
