Losing, in a curious way, is winning.

[Neilh23]

We talked plans for a family vacation to DC. I'm anxious about that, asked him about getting 2 hotel rooms, he didn't see why.. ugg.

Hey Bridge...

this struck something with me. If he doesn't see why, so what? If he refuses to acknowledge your desire to get separate rooms, just get one yourself and tell him. It's his choice to be stubborn about it and see the bigger picture.....not yours. My impression from this board is that if you want something and the S doesn't, just do it, esp. if they don't want/see the need for it.

My W would always want a coffee from Tim Hortons when we left my parents house. Sometimes we would stop...sometimes we woulnd't because I didn't see why she would want it. The times we didn't stop built alot of resentment in my W, when all she had to do was say "I want this." instead, she shut down.

Now, it's not the same sitch, but the concept is the same. You want something, he doesn't see the need for it. Tell him you need this (perhaps you already have.) Just do it then if he still doesn't get it.

I hope that makes sense....from a DAM (occasionally an Advanced DAM)