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since those flowers died, and i really shouldn't send flowers or letters or that stuff anymore, is there something i can do that would help put me more in her favor ? I've been playing guitar for 11 years and she always loved when i played, but I think writing her a song would be way too much. any ideas ? the flowers were really a hit though. just trying to think of things i could do to sort of take away from OM. something that will make her say "awww" but not "he has no life and nothing better to do than bother me with stupid stuff"


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No, that is all "pursuing" behavior, Buster, and you don't want to do any of that. BIG no-no!

You want to focus on the "mature" things that Mark has been advising, and simply on being the best dad you can possibly be.

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ok i understand.


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books should be here today !


2. Your relationship with your wife is over when YOU say it is over ----MarkF

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VERY GOOD!

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ok now what ? i just talked to my wife and she asked me when i was going to give her the money i owe her for child support. She said she was going to email me and lawyer to draw up separation papers since i didn't decide yet.


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well she asked for the full amount that was given to us at our consultation last week. I didn't sign or agree to anything which she took as "fighting" her.


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Calmly reply "that's your choice. I do not want a divorce."

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and when said papers are drawn up, what do i do ?


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You have your attorney look a them, and advise you.

There's nothing that says you have to agree to anything right now. How long do divorces take in your state?

Just try to STAY CALM. Just because this is her mindset now, doesn't mean it will remain that way. In fact, I'd bet the odds are 50/50 that she never even serves you with them yet.

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