from IMP: The work of DBing

[KPK]

That is definitely a great post by IMP. I just wish I could figure out if I'm DBing or just standing, and how to let go of the fear! I think H is in MLC, but it doesn't really seem to matter at this point- gone is gone. I took responsibility for my part in the decline of our marriage, and I'm definitely doing things for myself- took up Kendo, am exercising more, got a new job- that part is all good, am definitely making myself happy. But H is still in the back of my mind with everything I do, and I am having a hard time letting go, especially with 2 small children that desperately want daddy back. I'll always be tied to him because of them, and will be dependent on him financially for some time, which is very scary for me. So am I DBing and standing, or just standing and stagnating- I don't know!! I believe I have lost a portion of my brain during this whole process...