First to answer you Jen...I haven't gone dark and don't plan on it, but what I'm doing as a last resort is the following:
1. Not bringing up the relationship 2. Keeping the tone of our conversations light 3. When he talks about the future and doesn't reference me in it, I don't react...no matter how badly I want to. I used to always say things like "oh and I don't suppose you think I will be there?". 4. I'm being happy and fun to be around 5. I'm looking pretty all the time (used to always have on sweats and my glasses when he got home from work). Now when I see him I may "look casual", but I put a lot of work into it You know what I mean...I may be wearing jeans, but I took great pains to wear just the right ones and my ponytail is lookin' cute with the little hairs hanging down on the sides like he used to say he found sexy. 6. I am putting NO pressure...no matter what before he left I would beg him to say he at least thought about me sometimes. That would immediately set him off and he would leave mad.
Phew! Okay now for the 2nd day of my LRT trials and tribulations:
H called after work...he is supposed to have D on Monday and Tuesday, but he has to attend training so he asked if he could come by and see her for a bit. I said sure. About an hour goes by and he calls back to say traffic is awful and he'll be here soon. I ask him if he's seen a movie my D and I were going to watch. He says no so I ask him if he would like to watch it with us when he gets here. He says sure so I tell him I'll see him when he gets here.
So he comes in...we watch the movie and I ask him if he can change the lightbulb in my closet. He goes upstairs to do it...and when he's done he tells me I look good in my pants. I say thanks...and also throw in something suggestive. He says when I talk like that it drives him crazy and I better be careful....
I say some more suggestive things and say..."you don't like it when I'm sexual?". He says...I just keep wondering why now...I wanted you to be this way forever. I reply by saying...well...I've got my hormones straight and my head straight now so...this is me! I then walk away.
We go downstairs and I tell him to be safe at training this week and that's it!
You know what I mean...I may be wearing jeans, but I took great pains to wear just the right ones and my ponytail is lookin' cute with the little hairs hanging down on the sides like he used to say he found sexy.
