The Bumpy Road to Recovery

[Bagheera]

Yeah! Reunion at last after three weeks of summer-vacation induced separation. I'm now back with the family for my own two-week break. I think the bed is still smoldering.....

I was also at a conference all last week, so not much time for chatting with you folks here. At any rate, DQ wrote:

But...what I really hoped you could see and admit, based on your earlier statement that you fear your hyper-hetero status has bit you in the butt...is that you actually DO get turned on by seeing the big sticks in porn WITHOUT having to also say it is due to transference.

Point taken, DQ. We'll probably just have to agree to disagree on this one.

I still think that one can become sexually aroused by watching someone else of the same sex becoming sexually aroused, because you identify with them and want to experience what they are experiencing. It's familiar to you: you have the same equipment, hormones, and brain chemicals. In other words, when I'm in porno fantasy-land, I want to BE that actor --> I don't want that actor.

By the same token, I never claimed to be 100% Hetero, or hyper-hetero, as you called it. I simply said that I'm hetero enough for it to cause me problems in understanding my wife's point-of-view sometimes. Where that level is, I don't know. 90%? Shrug. So you might be right: at some deep, hiden level, I'm also attracted to the guy and his big rod.

And like the sexual submissives I frequently discuss here, I'll acknowledge its possibility, but don't want to talk about it.

-- B.