Both my W and I have strived to take the high road because we work in the same office as well - though I can usually avoid her if I need to.
We decided we wouldn't go after each other's retirements or anything, so the only thing that had to be figured out was the house. We each got the Nolo book on D and decided to do it ourselves. It was pretty straightforward. I consulted a L beforehand - free 1 hour initial consultation - just to make sure it was as straightforward as I thought it was.
She did the initial filing online and I responded online. The papers had to be printed out and served, with the server signing something that then had to be filed with the court. Then we drew up an agreement, but just used the template in the Nolo book. We then took it back to the L I had gone to to make sure it was correct before filing.
So, that's where we're at.
We had a joint account but agreed to split equally. We had to sit down and come to an agreement about dividing joint property - that was tough. But that doesn't matter so much in the court docs.
It really is like a business agreement. It's hard to see this relationship of love get put into these black & white terms of possessions, and it was even harder to realize how easy it was to dissolve our M, but there it is.
Does that help? I highly recommend the nolo books because they give you a really good overview and an idea of what to expect. I got mine at the library.
