I hope this is what "peeking" looks like!

[Lissie]

"I'm gutted"

"I feel so lost"


First of all I am sorry for your pain. I think all on this board know it to well.

It sort of takes a hold of you sometimes and you physically feel it when you take a breath, or feel that dull pain around your heart.

It physically takes a toll.

I am sorry about that. I have not read all of your situtation. I am not good on giving advice on standing. I am divorced. I am not one of the "success" stories that the people that have arrived here not to long ago, are looking for.

I will tell you one thing.

That pain, that seems like it will never ever go away. Does.

I wish I can tell all the wonderful people that come on here,

Hey, this is not the worst thing that will every happen to you.

Please don't "waste" the days hurting over someone that has left you.

Please DO spend the days loving and finding your self again. Please DO spend the days loving your children like you never have before.


I wish you can see all of this, as such a gift you have been given.

A second chance at life if you will. God has shaken things up in your life for a reason. Please try and see it as a blessing, even when it hurts so damn much you can't breathe.

You will become such a butterfly.

You will become such a different person. Someone that you forgot about.

Wake up every day, and thank God for your wonderful life, b/c under all this muck, there is this certain beauty.

A freeing beauty. A time to make your own decisions, a time to make your home like you want it, a time to take a class and learn something new that you never thought you would have before.

Instead of wondering where he is, and instead of wondering if you did something a certain way, that will make him think a certain way. You can wonder, what is it that I want to do today, without having to feel any pressure from anyone.

I wish i could fast forward all of this pain for everyone, so you don't waste the time pouring your heart and soul into someone besides yourself.

It is YOUR blessing, that this has happened. This is YOUR chance to live your life to the fullest. This is YOUR chance to make your mark.

All of this is very new, and it takes time. I am sorry for your lost and gutted feeling. I really am, i remember them all to well.

But I promise you, you will laugh and smile and be happy again. If your H comes back to you, it will be an addition to your already wonderful life.

Much love and peace to you