I 100% agree that the vast majority of WAS would rather live miserably and try to make people think they made the right choice.
My XH made a huge production of introducing the young OW to his family and friends while throwing me under the bus in 2005-06.
His conscience must have finally kicked in because he called his mother in January 07 and told her that none of it was my fault .. it was all him. He called me the next night and admitted the same thing. It was the first of many late-night calls breaking down and expressing remorse.
Did it make a difference? Not in the long run. He's still with OW. My SIL says H really is unhappy, and he has stated he will never marry again. Apparently OW is okay with this, so it's easier to stay in the mess he has created for himself than do the work to come home.
