Sweetie, DBing for your marriage is not a bad thing.
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And nothing I do or say seems to change a thing.
Alright Chris, I am going to have to disagree here. I think things have come a long way. He hasn't been bringing up the D and that is huge. The problem is that you are trying to convince him how he should feel. You can't do that. Right or wrong, he is entitled to his feelings
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I know you are both right, and I need to let it go. God, it's just so hard, and goes against everything I feel.
I think that is why DBing is so hard to grasp. It goes against what we feel should work and what our normal reactions are. R talks are draining and if you keep having them then he is going to avoid you. It will happen in time.
Don't make him feel guilty. I think he feels that way enough on his own....and you don't want him to come back because of guilt...you want him to come back because he WANTS to.
Hang in there. I think you are doing fine with GAL, just back off the R talks.
