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"people change the focus from DB to MLC myopia"

I think this is true and important to note--because it becomes THEIR problem exclusively and you do not own up to your share of the deal.

I have thought that I've created an atmosphere in which it was easy for H to have the MLC. I did not take care of myself emotionally because I was trying to please him all the time. He got used to his feelings being center stage and didn't have to think about me. The past year has actually been a series of steadily getting stronger for me.

I still have a lot of work to do, regardless of what happens w/M.