Finally made it through all of your threads! Phew, took a while but at least I can see the whole picture now.
I guess it's no surprise, but what I see constantly in your interactions is that your H is angry. He's angry with you for leaving, was and still is. Most of his actions are a reaction to that. He probably wants to do things to you emotionally that will make you feel what he has been feeling, anrgy, hurt, rejected. Kissing the woman in the bar being a case in point. I guess you need to do wait for the anger to subside or do something to draw it out. Whether that's sensible depends on your bravery and what kind of man he is.
Is he still seeing the OM? What did you do about the apology to you FIL/MIL?
Take care,
Max
Me 36 W 37 Bomb (Easter 07) Sep (WAW July 07) "It's over" (end Oct 07) T10.5 years, M2 (before bomb)
