MLC or not, I see no reason to give up on a marriage at the first sign of trouble. Both situations require, IMO, an attempt to right the ship. Divorce Busting is a program geared to working in any situations. MLC or not, we still have to examine ourselves. MLC or not, we still have to change our destructive patterns. MLC or nor, we still have to identify patterns that work. MLC or not, we still have to make ourselves happy.
As I said in the post put on this thread by sg, one of the worst thing that happened to this board was the posting of the stages. This was not meant to dismiss the stages or the person who posted them. The post was meant to show how her situation fit with the stages (taken from the work of another counselor). The problem wasn't the stages but rather that the stages became the whole story and people change the focus from DB to MLC myopia. Also, a bit of a MLC cottage industry was formed around here in which a dissenting opinion or a challenge to content were shouted down. It also stopped people from looking within and that is not Divorce Busting. It is sad when you see people who have been at this stuff for years and still haven't looked in the mirror, or just as bad, have deluded themselves into thinking they did.
So sure, there is nothing wrong with having an idea what MLC is. But when it becomes the be all and end all it is no good. But as I said earlier, MLC or not, Divorce Busting is a worthy program. Saving your marriage or not, DB is a worthy program.
