Chris, as an outsider looking in....I really don't think things are as bad as you think. He just needs some time to work through all this and you need to give him that space. You are still trying to convince him of how he "should" feel. The more you do that, the more he is going to fight it. Don't point out the progress to him, just let it be.
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So we talked yesterday during the day, and he said "I'm not even that upset that you have access, because I know there isn't anything in there bad for you to see"
I think that is huge. He is just going through something. He isn't lying, he isn't hiding things, and there is no OW. He just needs some time.
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So why has he not filed? Is it just he hasn't had a chance with his work schedule, is he confused, is he trying to delay only for me??
Who cares why at this point? It just buys you time. If you start demanding to know why, you may push him to do it. I speak from experience on that one.
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To which he said......"you can't think of it like that. You can't think in percentages and stuff."
He is absolutely right. You are over analyzing and you will drive yourself crazy doing that.
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He did make a comment to me during our talking yesterday on the phone though where he basically said, that I need to stop doing everything for HIM and with the though of trying to save us. That I need to start thinking about myself and the girls.
Again, he is right. He needs to see you doing these things. THEN maybe he will join in the fight.
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I just don't know where to go from here. LRT, Dark, give up.......what? His actions are just so confusing to me right now.
I don't think you need to go dark or LRT and especially not give up. You just need to give him space hon. You need to lay off the R talks. You are smothering him. Let him go. Letting go does not mean giving up. Don't point out the positives to him.
Chris, I really think your H is a good man. I have never read anything bad that you have written about him. He loves those girls and he cares, just give him a chance to miss you.
