Quote: .but since i'm being attacked for my actions...I might as well tell it like it is...
you aren't being attacked for your actions..there are plenty of people who have had affairs and come here for advice and support and get plenty of it...actually for some freaky reason they tend to get more support and advice than the betrayed partner...
davis' sentiment is right on...he may have been harsh in the delivery but what he is saying is clear and true.
you are not being attacked for your actions...
but your attitude is not going to get you very far at all in your m.
you still feel justified in having an a....you even say so in your post.
what's to say your h doesn't have some justification in his mind for staying at the bars and throwing stuff at you??
you hurt so you had an a...
he hurt in some way so he stayed out and got drunk...
he hurt some more so he threw things...
either way you look at it...having an a, getting drunk, throwing things...sure there are reasons...just as there are reasons that little kids throw temper tantrums...
time to grow up and take responsibility for your actions..claim ownership of yourself.
don't blame your h for your affair...don't use his bad behabior as an excuse for your bad behavior or the two of you will continue to go in a viscious cirle of bad behavior feeling justified by the others actions.
