I really liked your analogy of the rocks in the river. It struck a chord with me.
I'm sorry about your dad. Some of the things we have to go through in life just royally s*ck.
I am not one to blame my actions or choices on my parents. I'm stating this up front. I am an adult, my choices are my own. As I've grown older though, I've noticed along the way, that a lot of the choices I've made have been based on my ties with my parents. Everything from the way way they raised me, their belief system, the emotional crap going on in the home, their interactions with each other. All of these things left a "map" on my brain. I've worked really hard to overcome and break some unhealthy habits that hurt a relationship; habits garnered from watching my parents interact with each other. I don't think you've shared too much. I find it interesting how things from our youth may have unwittingly shaped some of our thoughts today. (If that makes sense)
