Hello Sandra, I haven't had a E/A or P/A. I think it would be hard to let go of the fantasy, especially in your reality sucks right now. I hope you get answers to help you from others who have been there on the board. Other than that I would do some serious reading about affairs. Please don't feel bad about your feelings. My H missed Ow and was pretty hurt by the whole damn thing. I hated it all, but still felt bad that he was hurting. He thought I was nuts, of course other times I could have hurt then both myself KIP
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