I've done the exact things you are doing...seriously...you are like 6 months right behind me....I could almost tell you what to expect....and that is NOTHING!!!
They do NOT care about how we are or what we are doing right now....I kept pushing and pushing until the one day he said. "I'm not coming home, get it through your head and move on"....that's what I remember....my H never wore his wedding ring and I used to where it on my thumb.....it was too small for him...
There was one time on Valentines Day that I wanted to get him a new band....I told him and presented the idea...I was so excited to tell him and he just made me feel like crap...he just kept saying he didn't need one he knew he was married....guess not....that day crushed me and I never said anything after that...
I wonder if my H notices that I don't wear mine all the time because of the heat and my fingers swell....or if he notices when I wear it....hmmmmm.......don't know.....good question...
Di....breathe.....don't call him...don't look for him...I did it...take it from me it's not worth it....it just pushes them further away....and this crap takes longer....
and lastly....this is the hardest of all....I struggle with it every day but everyone on here is so right....the OW is NOTHING compared to you....don't give her space in your brain....easier said than done......
((((hugs))))
Last edited by Treese; 07/20/0803:28 PM.
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
