separated 9 months and counting

[nerraw]

I'm in the same boat as you just 5 months behind. Trust me I agree it's hard. She said in the beginning she wanted a divorce not a separation and then I waited 60days and nothing so I asked her again where she stands and same thing. It's been 3 weeks since that last conversation and no paperwork. She is a teacher and starts back to school in less then 4 weeks so I was expecting to her to file before the school year starts. I can't help but think that her delaying is just her working through it but then again who knows. I've started the LRT and it seems to be working. The first couple days are hell but it's gotten easier as the days go on. When she does call I take the time to catch up but I no longer go out of my way to contact her. We have a 18month old so I have to pick him up from her place occasionally but besides that there should be no contact. She still calls about once every 5 days whether it's just something quick or something important it generally turns into a good conversation about the days happenings. Still miss her dearly and feel it all can be worked out but it now rest on her shoulders. So don't worry we are all in the same boat. Like my grandpa always said why get a new boat when the old boat can be repaired. Even if it's sunk you can still pull it out of the depths and repair it. Good luck.