Um, you could have easily spent your life with a DC because it was your best sex ever? um.....
When I was in between R's I think I looked at people different than when I am in a R. When I was 'on the market' I looked for signs that I hoped were there.
You sure cook a lot and have a lot of dinner parties! My dinner parties consist of hot dogs on the grill and whatever anyone dumps on the table! Who cares if it clashes as long as it all goes down good! That leaves more time for the better things in life!
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.