Jun 06 ILYBNILWY Dec06 W tells me that we should separate ( unknown to me having PA ) Late Jan 07 I find this board and order DR June 07 W admits A and its over , I got a heartfelt appology and W says she will stay. July 07 W moved out leaving me with kids. Jan 08 W moves to cottage and we share custody of D12. More recently she has been involved with at least 2 OM , both kept secret , one out of town and married.
ow this may seem crazy , given the ultimate goal of having my family back together , but I hope W takes plenty of time to get her life together , I would love to see her go to a C , but dont see it happening. I actualy dont want her to come back right now as I know it would be for all the wrong reasons. Now isnt that a turn around? it was not long ago I was freting about her leaving. I dont even know about long term , there is just going to be so much to deal with it almost seems overwhelming . I dont even know how to express how I feel right now , I have been giving so much on an empty tank for so long and now I dont have to.
Quite honestly not a whole lot of progress in that year. Our R is more distant than it was then but a lot less of a roller coaster , much more stable. W has still not made any move in either direction, towards reconciliation or D .
So I managed to stop the train but now dont know what to do with it. Looks like it may sit and rust if I dont give it a bit of a push.
Last night I ot home and W was here with D , she actualy asked if they could come over which is a first. W thinks I am involved with OW to some extent. So I was at the bike club and a lady I know gave me a hug as I left , this lady is heavy on the purfume so I knew I would have it on me . I sat next to W and i could see her from time to time stick her nose in the air and sniff . She said nothing. LOL . it was completely inocent but I never said anything , no harm in her wondering.
Today was a nice afternoon and I invited W and D out for a drive. Its been a while since I have invited W anywhere. I got a message back about how they needed to do this and that etc. I just sent a message back , not to worry , there is no stress I have other things I can do. I got a message back " we will go see you at 2 " . So we went out and had a nice afternoon. W was a bit awkward to start with but loosened up as the day went on. They stayed for dinner and W cleaned up later ( 1st time for a while ) . Thanked me for the afternoon and left with D.
