Ian, I really appreciate your feedback. It makes so much sense. Tomorrow I find my voice and end my waiting for him to decide if he wants to love me. It's time to move forward. He needs to tell me if he's ready to put 110% into making our marriage better, making me a priority, and giving me what I NEED.
I'm happy to hear that you are going to be taking a stand for yourself in the marriage. Goodness knows I'm not one who should be giving advice but I hope that the part about asking him if he is willing to work on your marriage won't be done verbally, but rather by your actions. I can't help but feel that asking him at this point is along the lines of asking an unanswerable question. You'll make it all too easy for him to feel pressured and begin to close the door on the future.
I support the idea of loving detachment while he is still in the same house. Perhaps treating yourself to something that you like and offering to share it with him. (Not easy - in my case my H was wary about enjoying things with me, however, occasionally he was able to let his guard down.)
Me: 59 H: 59 Together: 28 years Married: 25 years in August "There may be someone else" 12/26/07 H signed a one year lease 4/1/08 H moved out 5/11/08 H beginning to show a tiny amount of interest 7/5/08 Is it possible that he is courting me? 9/30/08
