Yeah i'm getting very angry about OM - she seems to be progressing that R at full steam - in her eyes our R is dead and gone. She senses all my emotions for sure
A brief history
Bomb dropped six weeks of the best conversation connection and sex of our marriage 2 weeks of reduced sex Wife moved out but connection and conversation still good - heaps of hugging etc. three weeks later slept with OM Last three months R getting steadily more distant
She actually told me we should stop making love since we were breaking up - and then weakened the following morning. That is not how it should be surely ???
Only since she slept with Om has there been any negativity from me and i'm trying not to show it to her. We had 8 weeks of great R (although last 3 weeks of the time i could feel she just wanted to go) She just does not want to have a R with me. It doesen't seem to matter how well we connect or how good the conversation - her walls are up - past hurt has been done and she does not want to take those walls down.
Always been friends.
I could call her any day and ask her for coffee or lunch or a walk on the beach and she would say yes.
She wouldn't initiate but i think that is more in an effort to break the connection between us. Yeah she makes effort not to txt me etc.
Don't know what my goals are.
For 180 i am a completely different person - both her and my kids and friends say the same. A lot of behaviour traits have changed radically.
I don't think, like you, she would read a book about saving her relationship
