Meeting WAS for first time. Any advice?

[Trixi]

We spoke a bit about my plans to emigrate to New Zealand. She's booked flights for a holiday there in November and will be seeing our friends. That's the point where I felt most down in our conversation. Divergent lives. Gosh, just typing that's made me feel really, really sad and upset. Wow. Emotions are crazy things.

((((Max)))) I totally get that. Be glad you're you and not me-- I would have started tearing up. When my H talks about things that I want to do with him, it hurts that I am not part of whatever it is.

Did you really not fight for her? I mean, what did you say when she dropped the bomb? Nothing?

I have a goofy question- if you continue to see her, do you worry that it will make it more difficult to get over her and also set the bar so high, that no new girl could "compete"?

Since you haven't let go of the past, is that something you want to do? Or is it kind of a security blanket? I'm not trying to cast stones with that question. There were a few single guys at the party tonight; let me tell you, it didn't make me want to venture out into the single world; ugh! Having security blankets/excuses for not venturing out there can sure seem appealing.

You seem to have a very evolved view of your R and I commend you for that. I just would hate to see you end up going backwards by seeing more of her. (heh, I am probably projecting just a bit there.)

I'll be curious to see how things unfold in the coming days and weeks.