Interesting - i pretty much agree - any advice on the achieving the 1) element.
We've talked a lot about what went wrong and what we should have done - we've both been very open with no hostility or anger. She has used all the lines you mention.
Is there anything i can do to help her break down the walls in your opinion. General consensus seems to b give it time and don't pressure. I'm pretty sure that is our main obstacle.
She did say that she waited a year in the relationship for the "spark" to come back and it didn't.
But it wouldn't if we made no effort - like take time out for ourselves etc etc.
My W doesen't avoid contact - quite the opposite.
W just told me OM is coming down end of the week for 2 nights - suppose OM is now OR - she just seems to charging with a new relationship like our marriage never existed.
