Is it true?

[stella_k]

Thank you, ((((Suzanne)))), ((((Addie)))) and ((((Jen))))!

Well, he called. I took your advice, which was exactly matching my own thoughts, and spoke nicely. I asked him if he can talk freely, meaning that last time there was OW in the room with him, and he replied with OF COURSE, I CAN!, as if it was something totally ridiculous to suggest.
I proceeded telling him what I had to tell (concerning D17, financial matters mostly), never mentioned OW again and ended the convo telling him that he's received a funny e-mail, which I opened by mistake, thinking it was for me. I didn't tell him what was the message about and he didn't ask. He will see it soon anyway.
It was not a bad convo after all, it was friendly, if not warm.

He loves you but he is still angry at whatever was wrong in your R.

acute observation, Suzanne. He was in SSM (sex starved marriage) for 15 years out of 23, something I coudn't figure out on my own and he never told me. We're both a little bit reserved when it comes to discussing sex. Now that I started to read on the SSM forum, I'm terrified to think of all the damage it should have done to our M. OW gives him what he felt he was deprived of for so many years - lots of great sex. He is not angry anymore, but he is very bitter. Last time he brought up the subject, he had tears in his eyes. He felt rejected by me for many years. Now he has this OW, doesn't love her (he says) but unable to pull away because of the sex.
I know, I should keep still until I can move back home, trying to do just that that.

(((((all)))))