You sound strong, brother! Good for you. whatitis has posted to me on the pitfalls of dating while still married. I get that totally, and one of my big things has always been fidelity. However, when you keep getting kicked like a dog before it hits the humane shelter, you get to the breaking point. All I ever wanted to do was save my marriage and be with my wife and kids. Period. It's now going on two years of separation, and a tour in Iraq, where before I wised up, I sent every penny to W. to "appaese" her. ENOUGH.
We were at Ft. Bragg, NC before we left for Iraq at the height of the surge. Iraq was bad, and I was headed there! I had a rare Saturday afternoon off after soul-restoring 700 pound leg presses, as I walked back to my quarters in the 98 degree North Carolina heat, I came around a corner where a metal coffin appeared in a quadrangle in a single soldier housing area of the 82nd Airborne Division. There were 8 paratroopers in the blistering heat preparing to bring home 9 Soldiers killed the day before. It was an epiphany for ME. I suddenly thought "Life is too fu&king short" I'm going to the worst place on earth, and I'm trying to do 180's to please an angry, un-pleasable woman. I started emailing this woman I worked with, who I always found attractive, but never even talked to because, well, I was married. To my surprise, she wrote back and we corresponded. I met her for dinner when I was on leave, after I took my kids to Florida for a week. We had dinner, and a great time. We laughed and seemed to have a lot in common. To my surprise she told her friends that she HAD a great time, and couldn't wait until I came home. So... what do I do at this point. I'll tell you. I move out on Tuesday and I call her as soon as my apartment is set. Why the hel* not? I get the whole go slowly thing, which I will, but I'm tired of being nailed on the cross by a miseablre, "Injustice collector" who still brings up stuff from ready....1994! What do you think?
By the way, I was waiting for my wife to ask me why I hadn't ironed the sidewalk, shrink wrapped the dog or shaved the kitchen counters today. You know.....all the stuff you should KNOW to do without being told?
