He says he thinks YOU will be better off without him (heard that one several times). Why do you think that is the case. As twisted as it sounds this is actualy love on his part.
I guess it is love, but also self-loathing on his part. He has said several things like that in the last few months since the "I'm leaving" bomb: "At least I won't drag you down with me," "I feel relieved because at least now my problems are my own," etc. Every time he is sad vs. angry he says something along those lines.
He really does feel that he is saving me from himself, and saving himself from my continued disappointment. He knows I want a baby, as well as the whole sexual package, and he feels like he cannot provide those things. He feels like a failure, and that grew into resentment of me for "making him" feel like a failure, even though I was the one who never gave up on things being better, on trying.
Originally Posted By: TwinDad
All in all I don't agree with your H's actions, but it seems pretty clear he is acting out. In a subconscience way, he might even be doing it to get you to be the one to D him (a bizarre act of love because he believes you are better off without him). He seems very depressed.
I definitely agree that he is depressed. He also may be in early onset MLC, because the bomb came only a month and a half before his 30th birthday--I don't think that's insignificant.
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