Take Away This Ball & Chain

[Sugar and Spice]

Sugar...
You may have seen me pop up here & there & if it's not OK for me to post thoughts here, you just let me know and I will disappear back into the woodwork

Kerry, all opinions are welcomed. Having others tell me their take on all of this nonsense is such a huge help. Some days it helps me see that H is wrong and others it helps me not to get sucked in, etc...

Sugar...
First, I wanted to offer you huge hugs & all my support. I've been following your sitch and think you are a lady of immense patience and endless class- even though your hubby surely does not deserve it.

Thanks!! You can definately stay!

That being said, he does NOT get to talk to you like that. No amount of DB'ing in the world is going to help if he thinks he is allowed to speak to you like that. The whole Jekyll & Hyde back & forth attitude swings- frankly, he scares me. Could he possibly be bipolar?

Kerry, I'm almost sure of it. My H had a chemical imbalance diagnosed when he was a kid and has been on AD's since about 16. Thing is, the dosage and meds his is on now, are the same dosage and pills he has been on for 22years. I'm certainly not a Dr. but I'm pretty sure they lose some of their effectiveness over time...just a thought. He has tried other meds and they had adverse reactions (prozac made him SUPER ANGRY...) then he seemed to even out. He was put on blood pressure medication a couple of years ago and looking back now, I can definately see a change once he started taking that.

Thats not to say that he doesn't talk this way when he is not out of his mind, he does. Its just not as bad. I know I'm justifying, but its been so much worse since all of this craziness has started.
I refused to speak to him for pretty much the rest of the day. Went to DS's game and said probably 10 words to him...he got the message. He showed up over here this morning with birthday cards and a couple of little gifts (from the kids) which was sweet, but he had to go because he and OW are playing in a Blackjack tournament today...whatever! I don't even care. Her birthday is next Saturday, so we'll see how that goes. He is just a dumbass and thats really his problem.

I think its going to take losing everything - me, our kids, our home, even her and this new kid before he really wakes up and smells the coffee. Right now his addictions are so much more important than anyone or anything else. Its sad, but there is a price for everything.

Tomorrow we are supposed to go and sign the interspousal transfer and have it notarized, I'm also having him served at that time. Then the clock starts ticking. I don't really see him filing a response so I'll just have the good faith agreement written up and file it.

Kerry, thanks so much for all of your kind words and valuable insight. I don't deserve to be spoken to that way, no one does and I don't owe him any explanations anymore, I'll have to put that into practice. I'll be "mysterious" lol! Thanks for all of the birthday wishes guys, it means a lot.

(((Kerry))) (((Sweet Girl))) (((Kalni))) (((Jeff))) (((GF))) (((Dar))). You guys are the best!!!!!