W told neighbor that I'm not talking to her, neighbor said "what did you expect" It's true, I'm not talking to W, if she starts in on one of her talks (she is a chatty person), I cut her short and tell her to get to the point. I like talkative people (women) but I cannot stand it from my W anymore, W wants to be all friendly and I'm strictly business at this point.
Glad to hear you're busy and doing ok, Jeff! I think things do get better as time goes on; they are for me and others I've seen around here anyway. Since I've been visiting the Surviving forum, those people are so happy and party people I don't know if I will fit in, but they certainly seem like a happy bunch so gives me hope that things will get better.
About the asking her to get to the point, my H would do stuff like that when we were "happily" married and he was kind of rude about it, I'm sure you aren't but still...it's hard for us talkers to "get to the point" that's kind of part of the fun is digressing and telling all the details you know. But I know how you are feeling I think b/c I can't stand to talk to my H now for a while also. I was getting kind of upset one day, H wanted to have a big convo, and I just said great, just put it in an email and mail me about it, kind of in an upset voice, and rushed out the room. So I think he clearly realized I wasn't being rude by not talking to him but just couldn't/can't at this point. I find email so much easier than talking to them, and also you can just ignore (or try to) stuff that's not related to the kids or business and should cut down on the chats and stuff that you don't need to know. Anyway works for me! Karen
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