from IMP: The work of DBing

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This got me thinking about the work I've done on myself.

I guess it is easy to hide behind "stages" of MLC. With that said, though, even Michelle's book devotes a discussion to this, and maybe it is worth considering that yes, it is possible that it is a life stage and it is possible that spouses are going through things with it?

Frankly, I found the MLC discussion helpful because I have been able to take H's crisis (and I do believe he is having a crisis) less seriously in terms of his nastinesses. Most people have told me to give up on him. it is easier to have some empathy thinking of him in a crisis.

I've also found some strength in noticing the chaos of spouses coming and going...and IF there is a chance of reconciling, I see the value of working slowly.

So there are many truths here.