Yeah, it seems like I go through this every summer. Piles on tables in every room of the house, each pile with a sticky note (or sheet of colored paper) identifying what it contains. Then when school starts I scoop up all the piles into one GIANT pile and do the filing by layer system!
Last night I took a tour through the archives and read some of my old threads. The oldest ones are gone...for better or worse! LOL! I joined the board in 2003 after I found out about OGIRL the first time. It took me a while to figure out where the best place for me to post was. I started (I think) in infidelity and then sexual issues and finally found my home in MLC until I moved here. I read one thread that I wrote while the kids were still at home, DD was in Crew and a Senior in HS, I was in Grad School, and I was dealing with XH. I just am amazed at how busy I was! No wonder I was able to detach! It is funny how reading about all that brings back some strong emotions. And also, remembering how different the boards seemed to me at the time. Maybe it is the same for the newbies now...but I think there are a LOT more people in general using the boards.
I also was able to clearly remember all the hurt, anger, and hope for my M that I was experiencing at the time.
With the help of the board and with my counselor I was able to figure out that the problems in my M went much deeper than MLC and were not fixable by me. Nor was my M a M worth saving.
Looking around now my life is so much different. And even if my H decided to get into therapy and fix his serious problems I know now that there is something so much better out there for me.
And that is my wish for all of you who find yourselves here. Love being boring! Take things day by day. And eventually you will find yourself in a much happier place. I promise!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
