First, Lovely Sugar, Happy Birthday! I hope you have a wonderful time at the game and with your friend. I hope your H can at least be kind, respectful and less manic today.

Second, I agree with so much of what kerry wrote above. It's admirable for you to stand strong for your marriage, but the way he talks to you must end. I don't know what the solution is. Going dark is difficult because of the children. I guess you could simply not respond to him at all, unless it's about the kids.

Thinking of you and wishing you happiness.


M: 37
H: 36
Married: Aug 13, 2004
Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008
Reconciled: September 2008
Current: Ambivalence