I agree about the pain. I can't fathom how someone could inflict so much emotional pain on someone they love/loved with nary a care all because of their selfish blindness.
But I try really hard not to think about him and what he is doing. It isn't my problem. I have to let this marriage die and be buried so I can move on fully. Who knows I might even have a pretend burial when I am divorced this week just to have it behind me.
I have put so much energy on trying to get him to see, in saving us that I have let so much go. I have been working on me but the house is driving me nuts. I also need to let go of here a bit, because I check it several times during the day to just see what is going on with who, which is fine but I need to come here a little less often.
I am a work in progress.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory