Matilda, I will likely go the picnic, but suggest separate cars. She will want to stay all day, me a few hours. I'll talk to her and see.
I don't feel badly about forgetting our anniversary. It makes sense given the circumstances. The fact that she mentioned it to me is a good sign.
The meeting with the financial planner was helpful. He seems to think that we're in good shape, but need to work on credit card debt. It feels good to get these issues out on the table, and begin problem-solving without blaming. I think this kind of accountability will help both of us. We've done a good job of retirement saving, but marital and personal problems have derailed us in terms of depleting savings, and increasing debt. He's used to seeing this sort of thing, so is able to help us approach it with cool heads.
I liked how he framed my W's consistent use of her credit card as a cash flow issue. We're going to address this and look at different options.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
