Sorry for the hi-jack. I'm looking for BFM and FW. I have confirmed (without a doubt) the existence of OW. OW that I accused H of 2 years ago. After 2 years of blaming myself for making a "false accusation," and thinking we are HERE because of my insecurities, I now know for certain that this isn't all about me. It is MLC.

H has not admitted OW. I don't know if he can. He moved out yesterday. He's very obviously conflicted. I'm looking for help for the future---should H consider to return. I know that FW believed that he made so many mistakes he couldn't come back----what changed his mind?

I fought hard to keep H at home (backed off, no pressure, etc.), but he moved out yesterday. I know he is in total conflict. I know that he is internally about to explode.


I'm attaching my current thread. I would appreciate any and all input. Current Thread

Me 45
M 25 yrs; T 31 yrs;bomb 8/15/06; moves out 7/18/08
D 18, D 14, S 12