How long does it take? It all depends on your situation...I was thinking about my own history...Was married 21 years when we finally D. I think we had been together 17 or 18 when he moved out. My H had been out of the house about 1.5 years when I wrote this thread. As you can see, he was pursuing me but I was fairly detached at that point.
Did you read DB or DR? Remember the "Stop thought" technique? (I think it was called that...) Imagine a stop sign whenever you find yourself thinking of your husband. With practice you will obsess a lot less.
In the beginning for me I took a swimming class and swam laps every morning. It was great for getting that distructive energy out. Only I would remember about him and his OGIRL and then I would swallow water and flounder in the pool! LOL!
Hang in there. You can do it!
SG
Survival Goddess "The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don't have any." -Alice Walker
