The part about you telling her not to shut you out of her life is remarkable.
The woman left you.
You ARE out, buddy.
And you have consistently screwed up every single opportunity you've had to make that woman think she might have made a mistake.
Waiting 10 minutes to answer a text is not going dark.
Ignoring questions about the children is not going dark.
Setting up a friggin schedule that would BENEFIT the kids and then sticking TO the damn thing would eliminate the majority of your bullsh*t contact with your wife AND perhaps allow you to REALLY 'go dark'.
Do you think setting up the living room like a pirate playground, folding laundry once in a while, picking them up from wherever the hell they've been left at and bitching about pull-ups is all there is to parenting?
Parenting is putting yourself LAST in line and tending to your children's NEEDS no matter HOW uncomfortable or inconvenient that might be. You AND your wife could stand some lessons in that area.
Do you want to repeat the piss poor parenting plan of your mom and dad? Well that is exactly what you are doing. And those children are going to grow up and act exactly the way that you and your wife act. YOU are going to be accountable for that one day. YOU are going to stand right in front of God and give account for every single bratty, negligent, assinine thing you do that those kids suffer for and I'm telling right now you are not going to get away with pointing at your wife at that time and saying "But she....".
YOU have been respectfully and lovingly told by the people on this board that you are doing things that are UNHEALTHY for the children that God has ENTRUSTED to your care. YOU are CHOOSING to ignore it all for the sake of serving PHIL.
All the praying, posturing and rosary stroking in the world is not going to help you come Judgment Day and I don't care WHAT church you belong to.
Straighten up, grow up and get your sh*t together!
A SLEW of people have left you and it is not because they lack patience. It is because YOU ARE NOT TEACHABLE. Your spirit is so full of garbage that you can't see reality that countless people have pointed out to you.
Before you go any further down this dead end road I hope to God you will be struck with revelation knowledge that absolutely crushes you.
Because if that doesn't happen, your kids are the ones that are going to get crushed.
And when that happens all you are going to have to do is take a few steps to a mirror to see for yourself the reason why.
This has gone beyond ridiculous.
It is shameful.
You are on a website where people from all walks of life with various experiences are trying daily to help you. Some might consider that a blessing, Phil. You however, DEMAND the full spotlight and ban people from even speaking to one another in passing on your thread. I know damn well that's exactly what you are like in your real, day to day life, too. "ME, ME, ME" that's all you care about. Well I'm sorry as hell that mommy and daddy didn't make you feel special enough as a child and you've grown up to toot your own horn to the point that everyone around you just wants to throw right the hell up. YOU ARE THE PARENT NOW. Do something DIFFERENT.
TRY BEING A FATHER.
Act like you have some damn sense and take control of those kids. Believe me I know firsthand that it's not easy to do but I have done it and I've done it recently so I know what I'm talking about. If you can't figure out how to be a responsible parent on your own, go get a damn book from the library.
ENOUGH with the procrastination and excuses! YOU are the spiritual leader of that house and if your wife wants to ride off down the highway to hell you hush your mouth and let her. Take care of your kids. Get them on a schedule. Give them some structure. Let her go whip in the wind. YOU have bigger issues to deal with not the least of which is your own selfishness and arrogance.
