I have been unhappy for the past 10 years in a 23 year marriage (3 kids, 21,20 and 14). Defining unhappy is not that clear and maybe highlights me as selfish in nature, but communication, different working hours, feeling unloved, being told why did you come home after a business trip, you stink, accusatory comments, and and showing abuse to my parents are but some of the issues. The purchase of a PC about 10 years ago enabled curiousity in internet dating, chat sites etc - maybe I was being selfish again. Nothing really came of this, a few meetings with individuals over dinner (I claiming either separation or divorce). However, things got worse over the past 3 years with my partner. Chatting with one internet dater about 6 mths led to a strong connection and degree of comfort with that person, cahtting every day for 6 weeks before a meeting and then a second meeting a month later which resulted in sex. I broke the news to my partner and they had no idea I was so unhappy and then they worked out I was seeing someone else. The trust is destroyed and we will separate shortly. I still love her but realise we have moved apart and that I feel much happier with my new friend. Lots of plans have been made with them although statistically the chances of a long term relationship may not be high we have a common thread in finding again our religious beliefs and culture. However, I wantto remain "friends" with my partner which i ffel if we dont may consume both of us with anger. I dont expect immediate resolution but hopefully over time with support we can find a happy friendship.
