Ali, Ali, Ali...... So what exactly are you hoping for here?


Let me ask you this, do you believe that if you asked him the same question today he would give you the same answer or do you believe that you have grown enough together to where he would trust you more and tell you what actually happened?


Let's flash back to where you were a year ago sweetie, trying to reconcile. Looking to move, piecing it all back together. What a tough time and how hard it must have been for him and you to even discuss such a thing back then.

So you believe it to be an innocent act, then why is it important for you to now hear him tell the truth or to confront him with the lie? Reality is that if you do believe him then you know that he lied so you wouldn't freak out. That was a very tentative time for you both.

All I am saying Ali is figure out if this is really worth the battle or whether you truly trust that this wouldn't happen again.



ian


M- 48
XW- mentally 17
KIDS- 3- S19, D23, D28
Married- 17 years
Divorce final- 10/16/09