- She used to complain that I didn’t do anything around the house, so for the last month I have been doing the laundry, cooking and straitening up as much as I can. She has actually complained that I am doing too much and would feel better if she was allowed to do her share. But when I back off, she doesn’t seem to take an interest in doing anything at all now. Clothes and dishes just pile up and nothing gets done. Should I let things pile up for a bit or just continue to do what needs to be done? Is she testing me?
- She still walks around the house without any clothes on (coming out of shower, etc.). She is a beautiful woman and still drives me crazy at the sight of her. Should I ask her to stop or just try to ignore it? Why is she doing this if she doesn’t want to be physical with me at this point?
- She is constantly texting the OM in the next room or she will say she needs to go out to car at 12 AM in the morning. I am trying to not even acknowledge his existence. I feel responsible for driving her off into this R due to my previous actions and the fact that I basically neglected her for the last 2 years (We have been together for 19). Should I continue to ignore it or should I ask her to try and keep a lower profile while I am around. I often wonder if she is trying to make me feel jealous... I don’t think that is a productive way of doing things.
- Finally, I have been sleeping on the couch, but she knows that the couch can be very uncomfortable. She has asked me if I wanted to sleep in the bed with her but I am to “stay on my side”. Fortunately, our 90 lb dog has no problem lying in the middle between us. Should I accept that offer or continue to stay on the couch?
All in all we are slowly becoming friends again, but I know that her negative feelings can rear up with out any warning at all. It is as if she realizes she is being nice to me and then will suddenly shut down or say something very mean.
This is truly the hardest thing I have ever been through in my entire life. Thanks in advance for any advice or insight into what is happening here.
