Ok you all I think I know what to do but you all are very honest with me so here goes.... I feel very embarrassed to admit this......... Please help....
I just ( TODAY) found out that something my H did last year and I asked him .... he lied about. Do I confront him now that he is different and actually knows what the meaning of respect is? it has been @ 2 months of solid improvement and him being open he even leaves his local cell phone here when he goes away something he never used to do.... I want to and then again I dunno how id word it or if it is even worth it?
I was angry before and then whe nhe called and he was genuinely nice... I thought why bring it up it is over and done with and we have talked about this while he was in Mexico and I told him if he disrespected me in this way again... I wouldnt put up with it and he would push me to be unhappy again and to shut down again...
my H has these Femake friends that are friends with one of his crews and one in particualr dated one of the guys and he has known her for years and she is a little to EASY for my taste. I dont care for her very much and she knows it,
Last year he came home from drinking at a friends house and we went to bed.
he always leaves stuff in his pants pockets and asks me to empty them that he likes when I do that for him... Anyway so I am HONESTLY innocently emptying his pockets and he has in them a receipt for GORDMANS and it has thongs and clothes on it.. WTF? I confront him and he says he borrowed his card to a friend and he bought the clothes and thongs for her and then he had to go to the store cause the store wouldnt let his friend use the card....
WHAT A BUNCH oF [censored]!
So I proceed to tell him you know what [censored] you and I dont believe you ,, go to hell with your [censored] whore... he looks me square in the eye and says honey I love you I have nothing to do with her ....
so fast forward to today.. my friend who knows her friend says she heard thru the grapevine that he bought it for her because he felt sorry for her cause she got back from texas and she didnt have anything.... How would they know if it wasnt true.. and I feel like he is laughing at me as are that group of "whores" So in essence he lied and I am angry and i dunno if my anger is warranted... I dont feellike I am overeacting am I?
I know I am above this and I could care less what they think but my H will even say be nice to her honey she is sacred of you...?
this would have been me last year and now I am just upset that he would lie and he still talks to her when he is out.
I also heard that my H just the other nite when he was out ( drunk as a skunk) was giving her money.. cause he feels sorry for her.. she gets money from all these guys.. she has 2 kids and one on the way all from different DADS.... and she is a drug addict....
I am embarrassed as hell guys... in my heart I know he is not cheating and yet I want to say something.. we talked about this before.... he is crossing a boundary....
please respond! I sort of feel upset and at the same time I wouldnt knwo how to present it... Ali my H is the type of guy that would give you the shirt off his back and yet I still somehow feel degraded by all this..
