You guys.. are gonna get me banned. I am going to hold you responsible!!!
"Now I feel Gump-a-licious and ready to respond to your timely post."
Shewholurks... sarcasm alert!!
"And it feels good to realize it's his issue, not mine."
You keep telling me.. it was all your fault. You did this.. you did that. Why didn't I do this. Why is he doing this to me?
Glad to see the mind has awoken! He chose this! He is in "fix" it mode. Last I checked.. his tools were broken and he needs to go stand in line at Sears. You got some Snap-On quality tools showing up. Do they feel good in your hand yet? The thing about quality tools.. sometimes it takes a while to get used to the power.
"Yep yep.. nothing like letting some time pass to allow a calmer thought process."
Its OK to think the old way.. it is going to happen. You are still getting used to everything. You are going to use the wrong tool from time to time.. they have been around.. and feel comfortable.
"My therapist described how people can be in so much pain and so desperate to relieve it that they make bad choices just to feel relief. Call spouse earlier this week was an example of that for me."
If I could take it away.. so you could think more clearly.. I would. This is why I say you have to get it.. grab hold of it.. and use it.
"The drama and activity kept me there. The need to accept brought me here. It's all a growing experience.. no? "
You go where you want to.. people will follow. Even the slow ones that are busy!
"Compulsive, excessive fixing at the cost of what I need to do is a bad thing. Helping, caring, mindful of other's boundaries (well, I'm still working on that one) is a good thing."
Amen!!
"Here here. I married vowing to love him however he changed in our lifetime. He's demanding a change which ends my vow. Life goes on."
It is not the path you chose. It was the path that was chosen for you. Life is a learning process. People are put in your life for a specific purpose. You can't see far enough ahead to get where you are going. We all wish we could. Think about what you have gained from this.. and what you have lost. Life can be a trade off. What you get from that trade.. may make things better. I would not trade.. me being here.. for anything.
"My brother is pretty neat but not on the market."
Lots of hearts breaking tonight... not mine!
"I'm looking forward to starting once all the paperwork is in place. We'll see how neat it is."
Don't let Work bring you down..
"Thank you oh giver of time and caring. I do appreciate your friendship and words of encouragement and perceptions."
No Words.
I see your actions.
Thank You.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
