UGH!!! stbxh's uncle (who knows all about the A) just called and thought he was talking to the ow!!!! He finally figured out it was me he was talking to and quickly got off the phone. Nice........ What's really nice is how buddy buddy he sounded when he thought I was her... I hate the feeling of being replaced.. I just hate it It's amazing how quickly they have accepted another adulterer into their family.
Other than that today was excellent. I sent a scathing e-mail to stbx. I've had a lot of anger brewing.. Well.. it kind of came out today.. Hmm.. can't wait to hear about that.. My favorite line in my e-mail is as follows: "You have both destroyed people and families in your pursuit of a perfect relationship. In the end, I hope it will be worth it."
D should be final within the month. I guess it's simply time for this to all be over. Maybe then I can move out of angry mode and into real life again. I'm just not an angry person and this emotion just doesn't feel right, ya' know?
I said something similiar to my H. I was really angry and was yelling at him. I said this is you looking in the mirror. You have caused this anger, this pain...do you like what you see? I hate what I have become and it has been all because of you.
Well that was before I found DB but still sounds about right.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
You still could, but it may not have the same affect.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
You have a right to be angry. The normal, healthy reaction to this is anger. You have been hurt and sinned against. Your daughter's family is being shattered.
All because you husband can't keep his d*ck in his pants.
The fact you feel anger is normal. I'd be worried if you didn't.
Yes.. I am angry as heck all of a sudden. I know that no matter what I say or do, good or bad, it's not going to change my situation. Soooo... the anger is kind of spewing out.. Oh well.. 'bout time he hears some of it.
Here's a question for any Christian out there who cares to answer.. Is the R with the OP ever not a sin? When you are D'd from your spouse and he/she continues the R with the OP, is it then ok in God's eyes? Will he then bless that R even though it started in sin?
Yes.. I am angry as heck all of a sudden. I know that no matter what I say or do, good or bad, it's not going to change my situation. Soooo... the anger is kind of spewing out.. Oh well.. 'bout time he hears some of it.
LO- You have said EXACTLY and I mean EXACTLY how I've been feeling lately. It's amazing how they can put us through such turmoil and through such emotions.
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Here's a question for any Christian out there who cares to answer.. Is the R with the OP ever not a sin? When you are D'd from your spouse and he/she continues the R with the OP, is it then ok in God's eyes? Will he then bless that R even though it started in sin?
I think Theo is one of the better ones to answer this question. My answer would be NO. How can a relationship that started as a sin, out of betrayal, lies...etc. ever be blessed in God's eyes? In man's twisted mind....yes, it's okay. I don't ever see it being blessed in God's eyes. In man's world and view, once it's legal, it's okay. God doesn't go by our laws. Your H can ask for forgiveness, but he still sinned. It doesn't erase the sin. My H has made what I consider very stupid comments about how it's okay that D4 spends time with OW when we're still living together because eventually she'll be a part of D4's life anyway. They just don't see it clearly. It's all to justify their actions.
I've been thinking of you. Hugs to you and D4.
SueS
ME: 42, H: 42, D6 Together: 18 yrs. Married: 15 yrs. Attended Retrouvaille - December 2009 Status: Working on it day by day
It's amazing how quickly they have accepted another adulterer into their family. 